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Welcome to The Relationship Guide For Optimists. F. Scott Fitzgerald said, "There are no second acts in American lives." He was a literary genius, but a relationship dummy. Or pessimist, anyway. Of course there are second acts in our lives. And nineteenth and 100th acts, too. If you're an optimist, that is. If you optimistically reject that a few words-say, til death do us part-eliminate forever any chance to begin anew. Or that bad decisions, or ones that despite good intentions and efforts turn out poorly, are final. No, optimists think unfortunate, even horrible, situations are natural, inevitable challenges in a well-lived life. Many-most-serious relationships don't last a lifetime. They just don't. But when that happens, here we don't mourn or seethe. Optimistically, we say, well ok, time for a reality check. Recommit and dig in for another attempt at rebirthing the relationship? Maybe. But, maybe not. Perhaps it's time to gently, thoughtfully, caringly put things in order. And take loving care of others. Then go back to that hopeful you, start fresh, search for happiness again. That's what optimists do, right? Fall down but get back up, brush off and keep moving ahead? Sound like you? Or a person you'd like to be, or be again? Then this guide's for you, optimist.